Maintaining identity is it a big deal?

(the Tamil caption in the photo says that we all are relatives and all places are one)
India is a unique land among all the countries in the world ,it has given the world best religions such as Buddhism ,Jainism and so on.every thousand kilometer in India language changes ,culture changes. more than a country India is a subcontinent.historically and politically we were never united until 1947.no doubt we are still in the process of nation building.the history of India is purposefully not taught properly for a simple reason that might hamper the nation building process ,if we really consider north-eastern part of India as a part of India ,how many pages did our history books talk about short history of Nagas ,Manipuris etc? ,in fact Himalayas is the youngest mountain in India ,the oldest mountains are in the southern part of India,but our history starts from Himalayan region! ,nothing wrong in that.(still harappan civilization remains as a mystery to Indian history ,may be deliberately kept remain mystery).
coming to the topic madrasi is identified as a threat to the place where they goes(a very wrong conception that prevails among us) that is for one reason they too much stick to their identity.this was the statement that i heard from many.now tell me whats wrong in maintain ones own identity ?this is the era of multiculturalism and multilingualism,that means people from different culture and different languages some how they will come in contact ,now u cant say if u dont know french or Hindi go back to ur home ,that is absolutely stupidity.it our our highest level of ego that demands others to talk in the language that we know. (thank god i got very few good friends who are not polluted by these language mania).the jarawas and sentinals in the Andaman and Nicobar island don't know that they are part of India ,they are the best people .in their place there is no poverty,pollution,corruption and bombing ,but u know how we call them "primitives" ,because we are modernizing ourselves by losing our identities and greatness of our languages . the greatness of languages cannot be attained by forcing others to talk in our known language ,it comes out of wide understanding of ur own language(mother tongue).
if someone stick on to their culture and tradition,then others see them as problematic being. u know why?,many are losing their precious culture and values in the process of modernization where as our strong understanding towards culture and our identity makes us to have a balanced walk between modernization and traditional way of living,whomever lack this knowledge of balanced walk will always consider other tradition and culture as threat,we can find among kids ,when they play in group if some kids dropped their candy or chocolate in the sand ,those kids see that other kids also let down their candy in the sand ,for that they use all the means of teasing, small diplomatic games and so on... so its a part of human character.
when these kids grown they still remain kids in their thinking ,they play the same game with different people in different places ,one change that we can find among them is that they all modernized by their dressing and talking style.but still we are primitives and we happily call tribes as primitives,in many aspects they are far more better than us.
we need to understand that India is not a country first of all, its a subcontinent lets accept this fact first.but i whole heartedly accept the concept of unity in diversity. there is a vast difference between India and Europe.India first formed state and then it is trying to construct nation where as Europe first formed nation and over their nation they created the state.like the french nationals came together to form France similarly Germany,this is not the case in India.India's case is completely different.those who understand this basic difference will definitely appreciate India's diversity.

possessiveness Vs protectiveness

There is good Tamil proverb that goes like this ,alavukku minginaal amuthamum nanju,means if anything that goes beyond the limit even the elixir becomes poison.
Human beings have so much feelings and emotions however modern he becomes those emotions cannot go away from him/her. love ,anger,fear are some emotions that we express often.there is nothing wrong in expressing these emotions coz its apart of human behavior and expressions.the problem comes only when u have excess of the above mentioned emotions.anything that u have excess that can be called as diseases. when you get angry for no reason ,its a disease .so anything that exceeds is a disease.
similarly possessiveness also sort solid harmless emotion it can be called as disease when it becomes abnormal ,but on the whole possessiveness is not a disease. oxford dictionary says possessive as:demanding someones total attention and love. what is wrong in demanding my gal love and attention?because as a lover or husband and wife they need opposite sex love and attention.expecting a neighbors wife love & attention is definitely a mistake.
these days gals mostly misuse the term possessiveness ,for them possessiveness is a crime,inhuman .as if it was never existed in the human history.
if a gal /boy commit towards another ,they must be honest in their relationship.if ur honest then there may not be any problem in the relationship.for instance ,my wife is working in the firm,in the night me and my wife is discussing abt something ,suddenly she receives a call from her co-worker ,she attends the call and she starts to talk .very important issue here is how she conduct herself in that environment ,ok office matter u r discussing at night 10:00pm (!) may be some project, its a good reason to trust her ,but every day ur receiving a call and running away with cell has really something to say .we all blessed with 6th sense by which we can easily understand what is going on in and around us ? after her phone talk ,if she herself explain the matter honestly then there wont be any problem same applicable to husband too.instead u think more abt ur rights and freedom and feel its his/her right to talk, so why should he/she needs to explain to him ?if this idea emerges then naturally there going to be a problem in the long run ,because India is not based on individual centric but society centric.
here if a husband ask her abt the phone chat ;it doesn't mean that he is possessive ,remember he is protective. many good lovers and husband and wife never raise a issue of possessiveness ,coz for them their relationship is more important than the third person ,why ur giving more preference to the third person than to ur own lover?
i had seen ,also seeing who raise a problem of possessiveness ,they are tended to enjoy silly pleasures such as sex chat in the phone or doing some nonsense in the name of friendship.if any body raise a comment on it ,then that person is branded as possessive. there are some who always want their lover not to talk with anyone ,this is not possessiveness it is absolutely a disease.we cant live with such partner,being reasonable is very important in relationship.so if anyone raising an issue of possessiveness in the relationship that means she is not interested in u and its a signal that relationship is in fragile and finally the level of trust is degrading in the relationship.because relation ship built over not in lies and doubts but in trust and honest.