WOMEN EMPOWERMENT

There are so many beautiful creations done by god and one among those are girls.They are really interesting to deal and handle .we call our country as mother land ,river and mountains with feminine names ,this clearly shows that traditionally we had great respect for opposite gender.many Tamil poets such as auvaiyaar ,kakaipdiniyar, now we have Tamarai film lyricist all were women.Even in early vedic period we had kargi and mytrayi as women scholars .what actually happened in the later vedic period is a big question because society underwent drastic changes and many social evils were commenced to practice.one among those practising untouchables act and denying education to women. a wise men always learn from the past or from history ,akbar had never underwent schooling he is called in history as "akbar the great" there are records that akbar listened to ministers and to his wives.no doubt men and women are equal .both must do things which they are capable enough . the exposure of modern education made great impact on our lives still making.since we are educated and empowered we never call our mother with different terms ,whatever we do and wherever we go, she is still our mother and we call her as Amma.{now we have daddy and mummy culture }so with certain basic things we should never compromise.the modern education (western education) which actually grown according to the western climate and culture,having a huge impact over our tradition .we, some intelligences who read those ideas and slightly lack the knowledge of discrimination between good and bad will get confuse with those western ideas.there is a wide difference between western mummy and indian Ma. similarly there must be differnce of western wife and indian wife.empowerment is not all about giving up responsibilities and roaming like a wild horse .empowerment is all about transforming into a wise women ,becuase when u read more u will become wise and u will start to respect others. have we seen any lady doctors ,engineers,civil servants ,judges talking more about feminism ,liberation of women ? ans;; because they they work in the society and literally know the stress and strain that working force undergoing.it is always the problem with the HALF BAKED ,they neither read more nor understand valuable things .when a girl get educated she really enters into the process of empowerment whether ur using it for constructive purpose or destructive purpose it depends on the women.
more than anybody we respect gals (good girls) because shiva is merely the embodyment of skathi the feminine form .we can say shiva is nothing wothout sakthi(female power) .power corrupts people we all know ,since they have lot of power ,nature provides them lot of responsibilities .we can find the concentration power is more with gals than with boys.women empowerment is widely appreciable along with the understanding of responsibilities.
u cut your hair ,wear one dirty old jeans and stinky shoulder bag call ur self as activist and start to roam .if u think this is empowerment ,really ther is a big misunderstanding in the concept.insted a well educated girl , higly discipled wife with self respect and turns to be good mother to the child and really a good friend of husband who respects certain values is actually an empowered women.

LOVE -very normal understanding.

The most fascinating,admirable,spell bound word is LOVE.According to our convenience the concept of love changes from time to time but the real meaning of love or the real love,which is universal in nature is still existing and will exist in the future too. To put it simply there is a vast difference between the love that exist now and the actual love.love is unconditional and attitudinal ,actual love will expect nothing,it will neither bargain nor do psychological blackmailing. according to our lifestyle our love too changes .for some, love is talking in the cell phone for no reason ,if we ask them they give wonderful answer as "we discuss nothing important yet it is wonderful".for another type of people love is one night stand and to some people it is a divine bond between the two souls which enters into life term contract by a ceremony called marriage.so the love varies from person to person but the bottom line of love always remains the same .It is an invisible emotional bond between two souls. no doubt every language literature will be having enormous works on love.Love between me and this lady; Is like bond between soul and body-thirukkural 1122.
some of our literature says that the highest level in love is sharing our body with our soul mate.it can be pre or post marital ,but the modern love have a small problem here.they share everything and after a year or two ,they realize that he/she is not a right person.some of my friends having this problem .one couple were loving each other,the boy will not even allow the girl to talk with me,such a strong love ,recently when i was asking him about his love ,he said no more exist.on the other hand my college friend prince is maintaining his love for eight years.so the understanding is very important in love ,whom we are loving ,what sort of interest does he or she has are very important.if we understand each other them there will be minimum problem and those problems can be easily tackled.Instead forcing each other to change according to their interst will definitely create problem. sangam literature says that the high intensity of love exist for six months and after that it is always good to go for marriage.may be not applicable now.
true love will not expect anything in turn except love itself ,i had seen many love and lovers lost in the time who were highly connected by cell phone ,messages and other means they even talk as if they are husband and wife everything vanishes in the time.if this is the case in the love we must think where the problem exist? Actually love is not an experimenting one,like we should not enter into love for experimenting purposes ,for simple reason love deals with human emotions. for many of us love comes by seeing people in the bus ,train ,airplane ,on the street, theater etc ..we are not committing to everyone whom we are seeing ,actually our inner consciousness should talk about her/him then only we should go for love with her/him.This will save us from emotional damages.if we are going to sustain our love only by doing psychological blackmailing then how long we can sustain that love?.coz our body and mind will naturally develop the immunity against the hardship .love only breeds love ,love cannot be attained by other means except by loving.love can transform an individual ,we can easily find people who are in love those are very common symptoms we all know those symptoms ,one among is that he/she will be too gentle ,that means love can really bring change whether it is positive change or negative change that depends on your love and your lover.

BELIEF AND THE QUESTION OF WHO WE ARE?

In a village there was no rain for about couple of years ,so the council plan to conduct ritual ceremony to please the nature in order to get rain ,all the village people were invited to that ritual ceremony.everybody went with fruits ,flowers,milk ...,there was only a small child went with one hand full of flowers and UMBRELLA on the other hand.this is called belief.
The child believed that after the ceremony there was going to be rain, coz the ritual was contucted to get rain .so he believed that after this ritual there's going to be rain.of course god was pleased by the child strong belief and there was a heavy pour . The above story my father told to me:(nallar oruver ulare avar poruttu ellarkkum peyyum mazhai-thirukkural).if one good soul lives in a place for his good deeds we will get rain this is what the kural says.i think IIT Bombay is having lot of good souls..
many times i tried to disprove my father's belief and words,everything was in vain.For instance in my school after 6th std we were allowed to use pen that too only ink pen,so i asked my father Hero pen ,it was sunday evening ,he told 4:30 pm to 6:00pm was rahu kala(m) after 6 u can get it.i was so urging&crying ,he gave 50 rs and told" get it".i got the pen and i was so happy ,believe it or not ,i was not able to have that pen for single day.the pen got slipped from my hand and it fallen in vertical position the nib and the cork got damaged.it could be my mistake,but why the pen had to fall vertical (?) why not in horizontal so that i could have picked it and used it carefully?.
These small beliefs made an individual to tame his mind i believe,it gives patience, faith in the words of elders etc.. .In this modern world everything is fast track ,fast food ,fast love etc..no time to stand and listen to others .these fast life makes us irrestitible towards diseases and stress.we have best doctors ,best engineers ,best entreprenues in india all their numbers are increasing ,but unfortunately the best humans number has been decreasing.without love and sincere care we are merely trained monkeys.what is the point in living as a performing monkeys and trained dogs?(sorry, dog is known for fidelity)THE HUMANE touch is missing in our actions.but things are changing ,some students are collecting dresses from the hostel mates for the orphan students ,it's really a welcoming sign. but mere old cloth is not enough for the poor they were left far behind in the process of development ,we should really think about "The Idea of giving back".its like a middle class father spending all his earnings over a single son or daughter thinking that he/she will take care of the rest of the family after coming up.similarly india is doing with the elite institutions. This expectation of india will get destroyed if we are lacking in humane attitude.

mysticism and the modern world

mysticism is not all about bizarre,doubtful ,skeptical one .it is one among the many way of attaining perfection which cannot be understood by our mere five senses they go beyond five senses and uses all means to perfect their body and mind.modern academics sometimes neglect mysticism as much emotionally attached practice of meditation,personally i feel their understanding and knowledge of siddhar {mysticist}works are limited and they can arrive at conclusion of what they understood.mysticism is beyond what our modern philosophy or psychology intellectual's thinks.for instance siddhars are mysticist they are not emotionally binded as explained by some westerners.since they equate themselves with supreme power they feel compassion is a must character of divine.siddhars possess in dept understanding of nature ,time and human beings .small example i would like to give here ,they identified many valuable medicines and still those medicines are in practice,many are life saving medicines . if they are floating ,imaginative then how come they can be master over anatomy of human body?knowledge of human body cannot be attain by imagination skills ,at least to sublime the senses we must know which glands controls what organs,siddhars possessed this knowledge & they know many sensitive spots in our body,they detect diseases through that spot.
for instance : these days couples goes to gynecologist to have a child or to prepare themselves to have child {especially working partners,things that should happen by nature became an enforcing act }Thirumoolar in his work under tantra seven[7] clearly explains the right time for intercourse and the chances of pregnancy.under chapter 21 ,paadal 1942 he explains right time for intercourse for pregnancy,there is naadi or pulse in both the hands we can check that below our thumb by pressing gently .siddhar says ,when the left hand naadi or pulse shines better than the right hand pulse that is the right time to send your semen to ovum ,during ejaculation hold the breath ,and for two month don't have intercourse often -this idea i took from the paadal 1942-46,in 16 lines he explained the way to have bright brilliant child.from this we can understand that mysticist are not over imaginative ,they cannot be understandable by our normal senses.since we don't understand we cant name them blindly .How can a palm leaf reader can say that i have a long scar in my right hand ?,i gave only my right thumb prints ,i was not present there.these are pure calculations which were explained by siddhars.
It become a FANCY and FASHION among the so called educated people to criticize anything and everything that is traditional.our intelligences need not to be boasted by criticizing things that we do not know the head and tail of the issue or matter.

village mysterious stories that i heared

Not very long, just before one generation ie.,my mother's grand mother period ,people in the villages had seen guardian gods ,we have god who protect the village by remaining in the exterior of the settlements those gods are sodalai{living in grave yard}, muni ,karuppu ,veeran and so on.The people say these gods go for a rond with horses , dogs and small subordinate deities some say we can even find flames moving in the night.
surprisingly gods such as karuppu{black spirit}guides the village people in decision making ,it even says many personal things to the person who approaches and it gives suggestions too.we have to remember these practices remained in the world oldest civilizations such as Maya ,Inca and even in Egypt{these three were extinct civilizations}.
people of wicked character or who committed adultery will afraid to trespass this deity temple surroundings .They afraid that the guardian god gives nightmare to them.This belief and practice still exist.
There is a big banyan tree in my grand pa's native . During the summer we sleep on the varanda or in the entrance of the house ,next day we went to play under the tree {it is a shelter for all gamblers,kudimagangal{drunkard people}etc ,nobody took serious about we small boys noticed that we identified that a medium size branch of banyan tree was broken when i was asked about the reason to my friends they told probably last night muni{a gardian deity which is good for good people and bad for...} could have have been played that's why the branch was broken.earlier night there was no heavy wind or storm.
when it comes to belief i never apply my sixth sense too much ,afterall its their belif its not going to stop India from signing the nuclear deal and these people not much known about recession and lavish spending by elites institutions which enjoying a lot because India consist of largest middle class population who cant escape from the tax paying.
There might be a scientific reason behind everything of the stories that prevails ,but these stories and beliefs remains as a yard stick to measure their code and conduct,which makes them to live in hrmony with nature and fellow beings.

Everything in my life is an accident ,my studies,love, creating this blog and even i conceived by accident . 25 years before{not now} the village punishment was capital punishment for indulging in PMA[premarital affair] either they give poison to the couple or they beat and hang the couple.since my father was a school teacher{now he is VAO] and my mother was brave and mentally strong girl she convinced her family and got married to my father. so in this jubilee year of my birth ,i thought of bringing something out from my memory dairy which is a mixture of sweet,bitter,mirchi and some rosy romantic memories ,.